Things about Relationships I wish someone told me about

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  • 6/04/2019 को प्रकाशित
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  • Lily Netter
    Lily Netter 3 साल पहले +1349

    Can we talk about how amazingly smooth and professional jaidens animations are

    • •Rita Pizza•
      •Rita Pizza• 3 दिन पहले

      the whole part with the blonde girl and the black haired girl was honestly so fluid I could feel what they were feeling

    • Greg Boardman Band
      Greg Boardman Band 11 महीने पहले

      I'm trying to become a romance song writer. Need to change my lyrics around. Hope you find something you like.

    • Civee
      Civee 11 महीने पहले +1

      @Alligator Tamer I've seen many nasty situations where lots of people do not, in fact, realize it is a team effort. So I believe it is an important thing to point out.

    • Parmesan
      Parmesan 3 साल पहले

      Kale and many others

    • Parmesan
      Parmesan 3 साल पहले

      GingaNingaOwO is a big part too

  • mmmtacos
    mmmtacos 5 महीने पहले +163

    As a dad to one of the biggest jaiden fans, who is 10, I say thank you for this awesome video! You got like weeks of dad lessons into a 10 min long video that we both had fun watching lol. Love your stuff, thank you for inspiring my daughter!

    • Angry Bird
      Angry Bird दिन पहले +1

      I have the same idea for my kids lol imma show this to dem when dey get a lil older

    • John Loo but darker
      John Loo but darker 10 दिन पहले


  • Mac
    Mac 5 महीने पहले +75

    This video helped me realize that I was the toxic person in a relationship. We were too far into problems (that I caused) for the friendship to be repaired, and they needed to cut me out of their lives, but after a lot of reflection (and therapy), I’ve been able to form some awesome relationships.
    Thank you for making this video.

    • Feather of a Jay
      Feather of a Jay 25 दिन पहले +15

      My deepest respect for you realizing that you were toxic and changing it. I wish you all the best.

  • Narra Beckett
    Narra Beckett 3 महीने पहले +77

    I love the metaphor “you have an ecosystem and it’s your responsibility to maintain it”. It’s so true and I thank Jaiden for reminding us not to deal with toxic people and just remove them from our lives

  • PurplexCity
    PurplexCity 4 महीने पहले +6

    I definitely think it's trickier when the person in question is a parent. It's hard to get rid of that feeling that you owe that person.

  • Ozymandias
    Ozymandias साल पहले +18952

    My health teacher played this in class, best teacher ever

  • Adrian Trujillo
    Adrian Trujillo 3 महीने पहले +28

    I have recently got out of a bad relationship and would like to add that a relationship is two sided. You shouldn’t always talk about one person or do what they want all time. I had a friend Let’s call them Lila/jack (they are transgender but I knew them before they realized) he was my first friend and best friend I that I met the first day of kindergarten. The first signs of manipulation were in THE SECOND GRADE they would not like me hanging out with other people, so I didn’t. I was forced to only be friends with them and I thought that was normal ya know… cause I was 7. Once I was older I thought if a person in a friendship has problems it was the others full responsibility to only focus on that and not themselves. In the sixth grade my eye opener was when he told me about some illegal stuff he did that I was not comfortable with so I told his mom who was on the school board in hopes that she could help. He basically just said f you and stopped speaking to me for a while. That’s when I met my current friends and I was genuinely shocked that people would have big groups and just hang out and laugh and have a good time without getting into serious conversations that should be saved for a therapist. It sounds stupid but I thought that only happened in movies. It was at that point that I started liking all the little things that I stopped because he didn’t want anyone to have a different opinion than him. I stopped drinking my favorite flavor of slushy because he didn’t like it so I shouldn’t either. There was so much more over those seven years but this is already too long already. Sorry for everything I inevitably misspelled and for this being so long.

  • Emmett1127
    Emmett1127 महीने पहले +14

    I had an ex that was pretty good at dumping every mental health issue they had onto me for so long and it hurt because slowly it made me angry and I tried to avoid them all the time and I was definitely getting more toxic over the course of the relationship I broke up with them and they got worse and I felt extremely guilty but I improved myself and now I’m in a great relationship now

  • dystopian chocolate bar
    dystopian chocolate bar 3 महीने पहले +16

    I just got broken up with and this video seriously helped me freshen my perspective on the whole situation, thank you:)))) im probably gonna rewatch this a couple times to keep reminding myself why things didn't work out and why it's okay that we're not together anymore.

  • Kasumi Suzuki
    Kasumi Suzuki महीने पहले +6

    Me sorprende mucho lo MUY BIEN que trata jaiden este tema :0 Es difícil encontrar a alguien que lo hable tan bien

  • Danae Joubert
    Danae Joubert 3 साल पहले +13525

    Apology without change is just manipulation.

    • YoungPacaso
      YoungPacaso 5 महीने पहले

      Bojack horseman vibes

    • SociallyAwkwardPupper
      SociallyAwkwardPupper 8 महीने पहले


    • Coralline
      Coralline  8 महीने पहले

      Ya think?

    • Riverinthemountains
      Riverinthemountains 8 महीने पहले

      Say what now no no no that means She's still doing shit

    • Baulvicork
      Baulvicork 8 महीने पहले


  • Daydream
    Daydream महीने पहले +6

    This video has helped me so much in realizing my terrible relationship with my manipulative sister and it has played a big part in getting me to seek help and do research to figure out she was manipulative in the first place. Now I've been able to start standing up for myself and point out her manipulative habits and lies and life is so much better. To think this all started from a Jaiden Animations Video. Thanks Jaiden.

  • Freezeburn 98
    Freezeburn 98 5 महीने पहले +11

    it's genuinely so amazing for Jaiden to discuss this, All my friends up till 8th grade were just undeniably toxic and if this video were out back then, I might've avoided or mitigated so much more manipulation, guilt tripping, death threats, violence, and even sexual abuse. I'm so glad kids nowadays have this as a resource to further understand the pillars of healthy and unhealthy relationships, rock on Jaiden.

  • Faiths gacha studio
    Faiths gacha studio 17 दिन पहले +4

    In my friend group, I’m always the one who is saying to others: “hey it’s ok!” Etc etc. and watching this video, I realise that I need to take care of my ecosystem, because I’m always taking care of others ecosystems, and ignoring mine. Thank you so much for helping me realise this Jaiden ❤️

  • lord lem
    lord lem 4 महीने पहले +1

    As someone who is often the "mum friend" or "therapist friend", I've found this video really helpful as it is reminding me to focus on my own ecosystem and start to work on setting boundaries! :) Thanks Jaiden!

  • Wine Is For The Soul
    Wine Is For The Soul 2 साल पहले +10175

    Now that I'm out of a toxic relationship, this video hits different.

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    • FoldingComet :3
      FoldingComet :3 महीने पहले +1

      Yea for real
      Ik this reply section is old
      I just wanted to share, maybe someone is willing to read
      I had a friend who i loved since 4th grade (ill call them B1)
      After 6th grade things begun to decend
      B1 would say little things that would hurt
      I would vent to them about something and they'd give me brutally honest answers that weren't what i needed
      (For example i had a body inage issue and their response was for me to stop eating burgers all the time "i'm just saying")
      Multiple times I sad we were done and called off the friendship
      Only to get sucked back in again and become friends
      We would write stories together and we had a whole world where we would escape to from the lives we lived
      And i loved it...
      Like a switch they seemed to get worse and worse, more distant and more distant
      I would say "hiiii" in the halls, get a half assed wave, and they'd walk away
      And other times i'd get ignored completely
      During the summer of my freshman year I only hung out with them once over the course of the 3 months
      But B1 dragged their new friends with them, so i was often the 3rd wheel, being left out
      But then... it all got worse.
      December came (3rd month in on my sophomore year in High School)
      Shit hit the fan
      I wont go into too much detail, but long story short i ended the friendship
      And after an unalive scare, and hearing my other best friend cry for the first time...(ill call her B2 for clarification) i went to bed that December 7th unable to sleep
      B2's cries were stuck in my head for weeks
      In fact, the first week of that December replays in my head like a record
      And countless dreams where we became friends again
      It hurt so much seeing them replace me within a week
      And they even tried coming up to me and apologizing
      I constantly ask myself if this decision was the right one
      And I constantly look back, and cant help but wish for the times we would do RP's with my dolls
      And play video games together
      I miss it so much...
      Thanks if you read this

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    • Huskylover Lilac
      Huskylover Lilac 2 महीने पहले

      Same though. This video was actually the reason I started putting together that my ex was a very toxic individual
      I’ve been with my current partner for over a year now. Never been happier with someone.
      My ex was just..yikes.

  • MeaLynk
    MeaLynk 4 महीने पहले +4

    I can not specify how much I keep coming back to this video since it came out.
    Most of what she talks about has affected me on a personal level from both pov's and it's made me reflect on myself a lot.
    Good video, 11/10

  • LavenderDraagon
    LavenderDraagon 11 दिन पहले +2

    This is so helpful٫ I really feel like I needed to hear this a as someone who hates hurting peoples feelings. I sometimes feel like I am going to far with my helpfulness and I take other peoples junk٫ when I shouldn't. I really wish someone had told me this before. . . my life feels much more off my shoulders now. have a good day/night! Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this!

  • Kaia_Devilish
    Kaia_Devilish 3 महीने पहले +2

    I love how she is balancing the serious things and holds jokes in it that doesn’t make it seem like she doesn’t care! She’s making it make sense and not belittling us and makes us feel comfortable with this topic! Ykkkkk?

  • Gay
    Gay महीने पहले +3

    I watched this video three years ago, but I still use this advise when I’m comforting someone. Thank you for this video it’s such a great view on toxicity

  • Headphone Dog
    Headphone Dog साल पहले +17009

    I love how Jaiden’s channel is a mix of stupid funny life stories and just really deep topics like how to deal with emotions

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    • Fairybread
      Fairybread महीने पहले

      Yeah.I think that to ☆w☆

    • Divya Pandey
      Divya Pandey 2 महीने पहले

      Omg yess truee

    • Anvi
      Anvi 3 महीने पहले

      “If you can’t help yourself, help others.”

    • Stritt Four
      Stritt Four 5 महीने पहले

      That’s why jaiden is my favorite youtuber

  • Diana
    Diana महीने पहले +2

    This is probably one of my favourite videos of Jaiden, its explained so well and I think its overall very helpful for a lot of people out there :)

  • AlexAndTrentPlayGames
    AlexAndTrentPlayGames 12 घंटे पहले

    I love how Jaiden can make deep and important talks funny.

  • Julia 36
    Julia 36 7 दिन पहले

    This video literally saved my life, I remember watching this every day, even multiple times a day, when I was in the process of breaking up with my boyfriend and this gave me part of the strength to finally do it, the relationship was toxic, and he ticked off most of the things mentioned in this video. I'm just glad I did it, I'm in a better place mentally now, I just wanted to thank you for spreading this information out :)

  • Just_sam.,.
    Just_sam.,. 24 दिन पहले +6

    I normally don't take advice from a random person on the internet but this made me realize that I'm in a lot of toxic relationships and I need to end some (a lot actually-) I just love that I can just watch a random video on INclips and it actully helping me🙂

  • Georgia Allen
    Georgia Allen 7 महीने पहले +2643

    As someone who is often the "mum friend" or "therapist friend", I've found this video really helpful as it is reminding me to focus on my own ecosystem and start to work on setting boundaries! :) Thanks Jaiden!

    • GG
      GG 4 दिन पहले

      So we have something in common. But I mean, this is not a good thing in common

    • WolfLover
      WolfLover महीने पहले +1

      I'm so similar to you

    • Ace
      Ace 2 महीने पहले +1

      Mood but then I send my friends this video bc things I wanna say to them are articulated so well in this video xD

    • Life Was A Willow And It Bent Right To Your Wind
      Life Was A Willow And It Bent Right To Your Wind 2 महीने पहले +1

      @Pink Llama No. You'd be a bad person for relying on a friend for getting help with your anger problems.

    • Yashino
      Yashino 2 महीने पहले +1

      I’m a mix of the mom friend and the dad friend

  • Aditya Anuragi
    Aditya Anuragi 3 महीने पहले +10

    1) Do you put off seeing or responding to them
    2) Do you feel worse after spending time with them
    3) Have they threatened you or themselves in any way
    4) Do they make you feel incompetent
    5) Do they ask for favours/money and never return it
    6) Do they talk behind your back
    7) Do you feel like you're walking on eggshells around them?
    8) Do they put you down?

    • MKardi
      MKardi 14 दिन पहले

      "So what questions do you relate-"
      "Y E S"

  • NCW Productions
    NCW Productions दिन पहले +1

    Watching this video 2 years after my ex broke up with me helps me see alot of the things I did wrong, and I really hope that more people can look at themselves and try to become better.

  • ThatOneLeftie_
    ThatOneLeftie_ 3 दिन पहले +1

    "I like to imagine myself as my own eco-system, and I do my best to maintain it everyday. If there's a person or relationship I have - maybe it started off well, but slowly started feeling damaging - then I've got to step back and ask myself if I need to kick them off my planet."
    -Jaden Animations 2019

  • Amanda Gaal
    Amanda Gaal 3 महीने पहले +4

    This is amazing! The narration alone feels like really strong advice that is familiar to me, but the animation is SO full of striking and clever ideas that pack so much more communication into each moment.

  • Animation City!
    Animation City! साल पहले +7061

    Jaiden:”You dont have to solve other people’s problems”
    Me: *Looks at math* “Well, if you say so…”

    • Sheer
      Sheer 10 महीने पहले

      We will never know how much cups of jelly Billy can give out to the class.

    • Ilona Nowak
      Ilona Nowak 10 महीने पहले

      @Funny video "guy" I'd like to remaind that logic is part of math. You'll need that.

    • SilverTheDruid
      SilverTheDruid 10 महीने पहले

      okay, that's a grey area

      LXVENDER! 10 महीने पहले

      Another Grey area

    • Do
      Do 10 महीने पहले


  • Patrick Andrews
    Patrick Andrews 2 महीने पहले +2

    This really helped me self reflect on things that I didn’t see before so thank you for helping me with this

  • PattyRedPanda
    PattyRedPanda 3 महीने पहले +4

    Thanks jaiden this really helped me out because I just got out of a toxic friendship, i’m still working my way of trying to separate me and them and I told my parents about it but they don’t understand me and why I made that discussion . Sometimes I still feel the guilt of leaving them but when I look back to what they’ve done to me I don’t regret my decision at all. So thanks Jaden for reassuring me, you always make my days better even when they’re at the worst( ps sorry for a whole paragraph 😅)

  • braille
    braille महीने पहले

    4:33 I remember watching this video right when it came out. And the moment she said "u are not responsible for anyone's happiness" I got super annoyed and mad thinking what does she know. She has no idea what im going through. But now 3 years later away from those people, I thank her. Its what I needed to hear. Thank you jaiden. Its scary and hard to believe but true. Truly thank you. You've saved me from horrible situations :)

  • Gabriela Perez
    Gabriela Perez महीने पहले +1

    Wow, I loved this video, I identified with many things that happened in my past relationship, it is incredible that sometimes even when you know that the person hurts you, you decide to support them unconditionally, and when you realize it you feel poisoned, depressed, accustomed to that type of treatment, desperate and alone, because they even take care of slowly moving you away from your family and friends, since some only need you to be there for them and nothing else, due to their ego and lack of self-esteem. Sometimes you have to reach the most critical point... when they cheat on you, blame you for everything and even threaten to commit suicide, so you can realize that you should always love and respect yourself over someone else who doesn't value you.

  • connorl0204
    connorl0204 साल पहले +3881

    “Dont let people force their junk on you” -jaiden, preventing sexual assaults 10 minutes at a time.

    • Sora Yabon
      Sora Yabon 6 महीने पहले

      @Mr Link eahahahahahaha shhhhhhhh you'll destroy their minds.

    • tube shaped cat gaming
      tube shaped cat gaming 7 महीने पहले

      @Mr Link oh you little

    • Chicken lol
      Chicken lol 7 महीने पहले

      @General Britain 77 I’m sorry for this but *you’re

    • Mustache D. Luffy
      Mustache D. Luffy साल पहले

      @AtMe if only if only

    • AtMe
      AtMe साल पहले

      sexual harassment rate drops to 0

  • Diabetic Hobbit
    Diabetic Hobbit 8 दिन पहले +1

    This is so late for this video, but I've been binge watching this video nonstop trying to save myself from toxic relationships, and ex, and a once friend. And I'm glad I can come back to this to ease my feelings of the situation

  • gillians.patchess
    gillians.patchess 4 महीने पहले +1

    I remember seeing this around 2 years ago and thinking "oh well I'm glad my friends are good" two years later I realized how the friends I had at the time used me and emotionally manipulated me, I'm so glad I found better friends now but ig that experience taught me to notice red flags in people

  • TheBadDriver
    TheBadDriver 4 दिन पहले +1

    My best friend just dumped a huge load of problems and told me I can't tell anyone. My sister overheard and we talked about it when we got home and I feel so much better. I came back to this video and I just realized that my friendship with my best friend is a textbook case of a toxic relationship. I'm going to try and take Jaiden's advice and fix my little ecosystem before stressing over my friend's. Thank you Jaiden ❤️

  • Imogen Imagine
    Imogen Imagine 2 महीने पहले +3

    I’ve realized me and my recent ex have both done some of the bad things on Jaiden’s checklist. They broke it off and I’m heartbroken, but I suppose if this was the way we were affecting each other… they did the right thing. I’ve been crying all night but I want to get help and improve myself before I even think about talking to them again.

  • Apple Pie
    Apple Pie 2 साल पहले +32394

    Anyone else super afraid that they're being manipulative towards others without noticing?

    • Celeana Mas
      Celeana Mas 10 दिन पहले

      Yes 🥹

    • I’m just Ghasty
      I’m just Ghasty 13 दिन पहले

      A little too much now…

    • CxttxnCandi
      CxttxnCandi महीने पहले

      Of course. I feel scared that im a jerk to the people around me even though I dont want to.

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      CatArtz 4 महीने पहले


  • oklol lmaowhat
    oklol lmaowhat 26 दिन पहले +1

    I'm in the middle of a very toxic relationship right now, but this video gives me comfort knowing one day I too can get out of this hell hole of a relationship

  • BarryzYT
    BarryzYT 17 दिन पहले +4

    I feel like you're the therapist I need, by hearing your stories makes me feel not alone anymore. I've felt despair and loneliness so many times, but hearing your stories inspire me to face my fear and problem.

  • The Cat (Mow)
    The Cat (Mow) 4 महीने पहले +2

    Jaiden, thank you so much. If it wasn’t for this video I wouldn’t have realized just how badly manipulated I was. It was my first serious relationship and it was incredibly toxic and abusive. And I didn’t even see it for a long time. I am working on healing now and it still hurts me to think about that person a lot. But I think it’s worth it because it’s not happening anymore. The relationship made me really depressed and miserable and I couldn’t even tell where it came from. Not until long after the relationship. So thank you. Because this video was the beginning of me realizing that I was only living to make them happy.

  • angelclouds
    angelclouds 9 दिन पहले

    my friend recommended me this video. i was in a toxic relationship, and this helped me so much. my friend was doing so many wrong things, and it was damaging both of our mental healths. i hated it so so much. thanks zac for the video.

  • Hayai
    Hayai 10 महीने पहले +4515

    Jaiden: "No one wakes up and is like 'haha im gonna be super manipulative today!'"
    Politicians: *Watch me*

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    • Lucidous.
      Lucidous. 7 महीने पहले

      What do you mean? Politicians clearly have a one hundra percent relationship

      HAMMERDOESTHESMASH101 8 महीने पहले +1


    • Pkmn Trainer Red
      Pkmn Trainer Red 8 महीने पहले

      @astek lenartowicz XD... tho seriously if thats the case it must be terrible... ouch. I guess its just the nature of politics.
      (wait you mean little liars? if you do, LOL)

  • Jazmyn Douglas
    Jazmyn Douglas 2 महीने पहले +1

    I watched this video when it came out three years ago. It was good advice but I didn’t think I had these kind of problems so I’d take it and try to watch out for it. Then I forgot about it
    Fast forward a few years and I went through a year that almost completely revolved around relationships with my friends and their relationships with each other. Some stayed, many were broken, but most if not all stayed with me. One friend in particular has so many issues that they need help with. No family support, little to no friends because of mistakes they’ve made, and mental disorders taking a role on their health.
    I’ve been their best/only support for so so so long. Most of our conversations (like 90%) are them talking about how they’re “not having a good time” to say the least.
    Now when I watch this video again, I understand. Now I understand what Jaiden means by walking on eggshells. I’d feel awful leaving my friend like everyone else did, but I don’t want to continue like this. There’s nothing I can do about their issues even though I’ve tried for over a year.
    This video reminds me how much I have to lose: a lot of baggage.
    Thank you Jaiden

  • MooSause
    MooSause 4 महीने पहले +1

    Thank you, I am currently in a relationship like this (with my best friend of 4 years) and the ecosystem metaphor really helped, this particular person makes jokes about how "I would probably do suicide if I wasn't your friend" and "How bad their family is" making me feel like I have a responsibility to take all their trash and fix it, this video was really spot on and gave me motivation and courage and I am planning on ending this relationship, thank you very much.

  • Life Was A Willow And It Bent Right To Your Wind
    Life Was A Willow And It Bent Right To Your Wind 4 महीने पहले +1

    This was really helpful. I have this friend who doesn't have anyone to talk to, severe anxiety problems, divorced parents and abusive family. I want to take action, but one of the problems is I'm just a kid, and the best thing I can do is support them. But I keep getting sucked into their own environment and causing mine to collapse, so I'm really glad I have someone to relate to.

  • Uma goto
    Uma goto 3 महीने पहले

    This has become my favorite video ever, I follow it the best I can and I think it helped me so much with having healthy relationships, I absolutely love it

  • SpiderKidAnimations
    SpiderKidAnimations 2 साल पहले +2091

    Jaiden: We have to interact with people
    Pandemic: Allow me to introduce myself

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    • SpiderKidAnimations
      SpiderKidAnimations 2 साल पहले +1

      Jumbled MegaDerp Maybe I am

    • Monokuma
      Monokuma 2 साल पहले +1

      @JolliestDuck You're an extrovert, that's so cool. I just think extroverts are really cool.

    • Crimsonarts
      Crimsonarts 2 साल पहले +1

      Me: Who says we have to interact with people?
      Also me: *talks to an ant in the way someone would talk to their dog*

  • Soph!e
    Soph!e 2 महीने पहले +1

    finding that line between being there for someone who is struggling while also not letting them “forcing their junk on you” is insanely difficult

  • ReallyCoolName
    ReallyCoolName 2 महीने पहले

    I've watched this video a lot, and a lot of the advice actually stuck with me which doesn't happen a whole lot for whatever reason. Thank you Jaiden :>

  • Alexis Hadfield
    Alexis Hadfield महीने पहले

    I love this video so friggin much. I watch it every once in a while to refresh my memory. Thank you Jaiden! ❤️ (And friend who helped)

  • Tiana
    Tiana 26 दिन पहले +1

    This video really happened me, especially the emotional blackmail part. Consider I had a friend that was emotional blackmailing me and this video happened me to see the situation that I was in

  • Shayna Tang
    Shayna Tang साल पहले +2476

    Jaiden: Not responsible for anyone's happiness.
    Person: But I'm a therapist.

    • Pretty DragonBaby
      Pretty DragonBaby साल पहले +1

      @hello guy but they can help all the people that do

    • hello guy
      hello guy साल पहले

      @Pretty DragonBaby They can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped

    • Pretty DragonBaby
      Pretty DragonBaby साल पहले +1

      @hello guy because a therapists job is to make people stop being depressed and therefore happy so they are responsible for someone else’s happiness

    • hello guy
      hello guy साल पहले

      @Pretty DragonBaby How is it a Grey area anyway?

    • Pretty DragonBaby
      Pretty DragonBaby साल पहले

      Grey area

  • Natty。
    Natty。 5 महीने पहले +1

    I love how every time i`ve come to this video, it gives me a advice that i really need in the moment.
    Thanks Jaiden

  • Sad_Cheerio
    Sad_Cheerio महीने पहले

    this has really helped me cope with the thing that have been going on in my life, thank you ❤️

  • WiredUp
    WiredUp 15 दिन पहले +1

    Heyyyy this is exactly what I need rn! I just cut someone off from my life, it was being emotionally burdening for me. I have tried before to cut them off too but it was always hard as they had just plaster themselves back on me.
    This time I finally managed it, and its always good to see someone else validate your actions :)
    Anyways, great video, thank you so fuckin much!

  • anx568
    anx568 महीने पहले

    This is actually a really great video on how to deal with responsibilities to others and yourself. Probably the hardest lesson people learn, and a lot never learn :(
    Thank you for putting this out there 👍👍

  • 8usy Simping
    8usy Simping 6 महीने पहले +1870

    Remember that this pretty much applies to friendships or familial relationships as well! Jaiden did a wonderful job making this lovely video.

    • ekkos
      ekkos महीने पहले +3

      That is what she said at the start of the video

    • Jay Jay
      Jay Jay 2 महीने पहले

      Jaiden is good making all vids

    • 8usy Simping
      8usy Simping 6 महीने पहले +5

      @RiversBend I like yours too♡

    • RiversBend
      RiversBend 6 महीने पहले +4

      i like your pfp :)

    • 8usy Simping
      8usy Simping 6 महीने पहले +19

      @Davuluri I know:). Thanks anyways. Cool video right? A lot of bot hate spam though.

  • Lieusa
    Lieusa 2 दिन पहले +1

    It is interesting to watch this without ever being into a relationship and probably won't be in a one for a long time

  • Aiotex
    Aiotex महीने पहले

    ive been through these things recently with alot of people and started realizing on my own that these are the right repercussions but this was entertaining to watch and also educating

  • Ghost
    Ghost 3 महीने पहले

    This is my favorite video, one relationship even looks identical character wise its uncanny, this video stuck with me in the relationship and now comforts me after, it was unhealthy

  • Charles Wade
    Charles Wade 3 महीने पहले +4

    This video actually shows me that me and people i know have faults thanks jaiden

  • Eat Me
    Eat Me 11 महीने पहले +5418

    "I'm sorry I have to cut you off. I'm not responsible for your happiness."
    "You're literally my therapist I pay you 250 an hour"

    • Alex Cronin
      Alex Cronin 9 महीने पहले

      technically hes not responsible for your happiness either.

    • Der Mond
      Der Mond 9 महीने पहले

      I'm proudly your like number 4000 even tho i didn't even read the comment at all.

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      🖤Simple Gachas🖤 10 महीने पहले


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  • Dragoncorn2709
    Dragoncorn2709 महीने पहले

    I just rewatched this after recently breaking off a toxic relationship and it hurt, and it still hurts we were friends for a long time and bonded over many things but he manipulated me and gaslit me pretty badly, sometimes I have trouble trusting my memory and it’s awful but I am hopefully getting away from him.

  • Average Channel Name
    Average Channel Name 3 महीने पहले +3

    Coming back to this video after being in a relationship that was bad really hits different. Also can we take a minute to appreciate Mermaid Jaiden? Mermaiden? The design is very swag!

  • Endmaster 101
    Endmaster 101 4 दिन पहले

    Just wanted to say thank you Jaiden for making this video.
    I recently left a really bad friend group and it took me awhile to realize that they weren’t treating me the best and to top it all off I have a very small amount of friends,so leaving them would have made me even more lonely.
    When I was trying to figure out what I should do I rewatched this video again and it really helped clear up some stuff and made me realize how I want to be treated.
    Long story short I’m feeling much better now and am very grateful that Jaiden made this video not just to help me but to help out other people with their bad relationships.

  • CalicoTrees
    CalicoTrees 3 महीने पहले

    I never thought this stuff would ever happen to me when this video first came out, I had amazing friends so I never thought about it. I should’ve remembered this video existed because damnn I cut them out and 4/5 months later I find this video again, and a lotta those things fit the toxic situation I was in. All of it is true, and you’re right, I do deserve better and I do deserve to be around people who make my little ecosystem grow :,))

  • Ray
    Ray साल पहले +2192

    Jaiden: Someone shouldn't ever need you. They should want you.
    Romantic Movies: Wha'd you say?

    • Spencer_1
      Spencer_1 साल पहले

      @ADMICKEY II you know what that’s a good point

      ADMICKEY II साल पहले

      @Spencer_1 among us players and cavemen probably disagree with ya

    • Garden0Flowr
      Garden0Flowr साल पहले +1

      Like, if you really want someone, I guess you need them for part of or a lot of your happiness or else they don't effect you at all, but to need them to the extent a lot of romance movies show, isnt ok
      And to make them act way where they have to keep you happy all the time is messed up too
      If you want them, you shouldnt have to forcibly change them for them to make you happy

    • A Random User In a Nutshell
      A Random User In a Nutshell साल पहले +2

      666 LIKES! IM 667TH!

    • Spencer_1
      Spencer_1 साल पहले +10

      @Lucien animations I think you misinterpreted the comment, the original commenter was agreeing with Jaiden.

  • Pluto Aizawa
    Pluto Aizawa 2 महीने पहले

    Honestly that is a hard pill to swallow. I’ve spent a lot of my life observing the people around me and reforming myself in a way I know they would like better or react more fondly to. I always assume that peoples bad moods are because of me and I should be trying harder to make them feel better. I definitely need to work on that mindset and coming back to this video every once in a while really helps. Thanks Jaiden.

  • Lizzie Gamez
    Lizzie Gamez 2 महीने पहले

    I really love the way you express things it always makes me laugh, this video is going to make me think more about my actions.

  • ZavierGoesBOOM!!!
    ZavierGoesBOOM!!! 3 महीने पहले

    I wish I could describe the connection I have with this video and how much I thank jaiden for making it even though it accidently solved some issues in my life, I saw this video and watched it in its entirety and it seemed to relate with the situation with my parents at the time so I sent to them and it helped them with going through a divorce, and it helped my dad realize how his behavior was hurting people he liked and try to fix his narcissistic behavior.
    It would be nice if Jaiden saw this even though she most likely won’t, but thanks Jaiden for helping my life and the people I love, thank you so much.

  • Mya Riga
    Mya Riga 5 महीने पहले +1

    recently i realized one of my friendships was toxic and that they had been polluting my waters for months now, and after watching this video i built the courage to cut ties with them. they ended up understanding and we talked through it, and im super relieved that this is how it happened instead of letting it go on for any longer. thanks so much jaiden! this video has helped me and so many other people & will without a doubt help many more

  • Muffin Man
    Muffin Man 2 साल पहले +9233

    Jaiden really out here advocating for everyone to be their own Lorax

    • Legoben98 Productions
      Legoben98 Productions 10 महीने पहले +1

      Jaiden animations probably: “I’m Jaiden, speaker of the homies”

    • Isimpfor2Dvillans
      Isimpfor2Dvillans 10 महीने पहले

      @kkwej wtf

    • Bray
      Bray 10 महीने पहले

      I am the lorax I speak for the sea caps, if you pollute I'll take your knee caps

    • Tayx2times
      Tayx2times साल पहले

      and.. tbh i don't even have a problem with it either ..

    • moodymoosh
      moodymoosh साल पहले

      While I would speak for my trees, that would start a fucking forest fire.

  • lameplayr
    lameplayr 3 महीने पहले +1

    One of my friends was dating someone who happened to be depressed. She described it as thinking he was going to break any second and she had to be there to glue him back together. She also said that texting him more than other friends felt like it was killing her. She also said a lot of other things that I'm not going to get into. I just want to say THANK YOU for making this video. Their relationship was literally like this whole video and honestly I don't know how she would be doing if she didnt have it so again, THANK YOU Jaiden!

  • nxgiedits
    nxgiedits 11 दिन पहले +1

    Really wish my past self didn't skip over this video before my last relationship,,,, it deadass would've been so much more obvious that the person I was with and our relationship was toxic if I had watched this and our relationship either would've ended way earlier or we probably would've never ended up dating in the first place. Really glad u talked about this and explained everything really good and I hope this helped a lot of other people as well bc even though I saw this a bit too late, it definitely would've helped me in my old situation so I'm sure this has helped others in the current ones.

  • Izzy Khandadash
    Izzy Khandadash महीने पहले

    i recently lost a few great friendships. watching this video really really helped me realize that despite the final reason the friendships were ended, i did a lot of these awfully manipulative things and just hadnt realized. sometimes i had realized but the way i went about apologizing came off more manipulative than the initial issue. this video was really helpful because now i know i need to work on myself and how i approach high tension situations, and that i should never have to rely on another person to fix my own problems. thanks jaiden, i really appreciate this ^^

  • Echo.the.lesbian
    Echo.the.lesbian 4 महीने पहले +1

    Thank you this helped me figure out my so called friend was emotionally blackmailing me

  • Shane-O
    Shane-O साल पहले +4387

    “Don’t tolerate any pollution, you are the one who has to live in it, and you deserve clean air.” -Jaiden Animations
    What a great quote honestly. (Fixed my comment)

    • MR. J
      MR. J 9 महीने पहले

      @blarg blargon you should care because one day the cancer drugs sealed in those plastic bags may be the only things saving your life. Call polluting evil all you want but food and medicine require it to be produced.

    • Sarahh
      Sarahh 11 महीने पहले

      @blarg blargon Oh? So you're telling me that you've seen them shoot people before? You're the cure? Stop acting so childish. What fight are you talking about? Even if there was an argument about this, they have guns and an army. What could you possibly have? A nerf gun? LOL. People eat seagulls. People eat turtles. People eat all kinds of animals. How is that any different from what's in your imagination? Humans eat anything that's edible, and oil is edible. It is meant for human consumption. What rallies are you talking about? Why would I ever go there? I'm perfectly fine with how the world is, I like it here. If you don't like the oil, if you don't like the pollution then that's your opinion. We don't have to think the same way, and you can't force me, so stop calling people things like "complacent fluoride gulpers" trying to think you're all smart and get a life. Also, you curse so much and you really think you could "save the world?" You think you and your anger issues will persuade anyone? Bro you act like a 9 year old even if you aren't one. Your second paragraph sounded so cringe yk?

    • Sarahh
      Sarahh 11 महीने पहले

      @blarg blargon You're not making plastic bags, and you didn't make the oil but don't you use them? Oil is literally for cooking. Almost everything is made by using oil. And plastic bags are used for groceries. At least, that's what I use them for. I've never seen anyone talk about the workers killing anyone on the news. Earth has barely started pollution. Stop acting like this is an anime where the world is filled with acids, no trees growing, and everyone is devastated then the MC comes and saves the world. Stop being depressed over nothing bruh.

    • Liu Yangyang
      Liu Yangyang साल पहले

      @Ava Taylor get rid of them

    • Extroverted Introvert
      Extroverted Introvert साल पहले

      @Ackee39 out of context it sounds like we shouldn’t be tolerating pollution irl

  • ElkaTuber
    ElkaTuber 2 महीने पहले +1

    i love the idea of jaiden having a guest over then she just walks away and you hear “but i’m santa clause” “that’s a gray area” then she comes back from her closet and continues talking like normal

  • Leonis 435
    Leonis 435 4 दिन पहले

    This video kinda helped me start learning a bit on how to at least manage myself. Right now I am feeling down and feel very defeated, but after watching this video. Although I don't feel like I have been manipulated or the other way around (hopefully), I think that I should focus on myself first and meet more people that could help me improve myself. Thank you for the Video!

  • Tailedia
    Tailedia महीने पहले +1

    When I first saw this video I was in a toxic relationship this video helped me realize that, thank you

  • Mlb edits fr life
    Mlb edits fr life 3 महीने पहले

    Jaden I love how ,you talk about these things in a way people will understand thanks for these videos I love your positivity and the way you vision these things, thanks Aton

  • Kenny
    Kenny 9 महीने पहले +2723

    I know I’m two years late and this probably won’t be seen, but I just wanna say I’m glad this video exists, it helped me realize that I needed to cut someone who I had known for three years out of my life, it’s been 8 months without them now and things are still troubling sometimes, but I hope I’ll be better

  • DumbBird032
    DumbBird032 महीने पहले

    Even if this video is old I rewatched it recently and realized how toxic I am and how I never realized how toxic I could be, I'm glad you made this video cause now I'm working on fixing my toxicity and being a better friend over all, I loved this video for being able to open up some people's eyes

  • IzzToons
    IzzToons 4 महीने पहले +1

    This video helped me so much, after seeing this video I reminded myself that I'm not responsible for anyone's feelings or happiness which helped me get out of a toxic relationship

  • •Mandela-Manny•
    •Mandela-Manny• 4 महीने पहले +1

    One thing you also have to realize is that when someone is toxic or manipulative in a relationship, sometimes they don’t even realize it… Sometimes they just have that personality and they can’t control it🤷‍♀️

  • lil._ugly._dino
    lil._ugly._dino महीने पहले

    I needed this and I always have to rewatch it to remind myself that I don’t owe anyone second chances(especially if it’s the 5th time I gave them another chance)

  • Henry
    Henry 3 साल पहले +1781

    "don't let them forcefully shove their junk on you" -jaiden 2019

    • Baulvicork
      Baulvicork 8 महीने पहले

      I don’t get it

    • Hip2besquare 6
      Hip2besquare 6 3 साल पहले

      This can be taken 3 ways no of which are good

    • Emiya Gus
      Emiya Gus 3 साल पहले

      Warrior, their Junk Warrior xD

    • GuyWhoDoesAThing
      GuyWhoDoesAThing 3 साल पहले

      rape percent drops to 0%

    • {nymphette}
      {nymphette} 3 साल पहले

      UGHHHHHhHHhHhhHHHhH me and my dirty mind

  • Kat Stevens
    Kat Stevens 5 महीने पहले +3

    This hit me so hard for real!!! I gotta give to y’a for being real here. Thanks for being our unintentional group therapist.
    Also me because I’m having a serious strained relationship with my mom… she’s definitely the toxic one in the family and she’s the kind of person that will deny any actions of her being toxic… just gotta keep telling myself I can’t change that (literally smh) and have to start focusing on me.

  • Lindsey Mikaela Santos
    Lindsey Mikaela Santos 3 महीने पहले

    I’m only halfway the video and I can already say that most of the things Jaiden states here has happened to me already, and so can alot of ppl :(
    Getting the feeling of responsibility over someone coz they’re too dependent and not realizing that someone is a red flag that is emotionally deteriorating you bit by bit is something that’s happened to me tons of times, this video brings up awareness of red flags and relationships and friendships with ppl in general, Jaiden you did amazing with this vid :>

  • Rhast
    Rhast 7 दिन पहले

    What a wonderful video. It took me a long time to realize I wasn't responsible for other people's happiness, and that included my own family. Thank you for this. I'm sharing it

  • Sacha_geek•
    Sacha_geek• महीने पहले +1

    I literally cried watching this video because my best friend is in that kind of relationship with her boyfriend. She's always saying that he's her "soulmate" or she "love him to much" and I really want to help her with this video.
    Thank you for that😊

  • Jasper N
    Jasper N 3 साल पहले +3305

    *”It’s not selfish to want the best for yourself”*
    I really really need to learn that. Tysm Jaiden (and Katie!)

    • Williamatics
      Williamatics 2 साल पहले

      That is a lie.

    • Oly1y
      Oly1y 2 साल पहले

      Its selfish. Nothing wrong with being selfish.

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    • Shit Beans
      Shit Beans 3 साल पहले

      @Lapis Lazuli um mostly everyone is selfish is not teue

  • Stopher Hammy
    Stopher Hammy 2 महीने पहले

    So, I ran across this video watching stuff my kids were watching on my computer. Loved this one and my own child is struggling with a "one sided" relationship. So I hunted this down again and boy is it relevant for young kids trying to understand relationships. Thanks for the very serious sprinkled in with the silly. Not that much of a fan, but real glad you exist and do what you do. Youngsters NEED what you do. Much love and hope for your success.

  • Rachel's Quarters
    Rachel's Quarters 3 महीने पहले

    When I first watched this I had a friend that would joke about ending their life. They were always negative, aggressive, and always focused on themselves. I would tell them I was having a bad day,and then right after I told them, they would dump their horrifying trauma on me. They did this all the time. They would peer pressure me as well. They peered pressured me into dating them. We were fiends for around half a year, and in that time frame I called the cops on them 5 times because they JOKED about ending their life, then I would Call and text them but they wouldn't answer. So I would call the cops. Then the next day at school they would be mad at me. It was a struggle, but I eventually broke off of them. It was hard to say goodbye and worry about what they would do to themself, but we are both better off without eachother. I'm much happier without them in my life. And now I'm really good at spotting relationships that can hurt me or others.

  • JEFilms
    JEFilms 3 महीने पहले

    I think of this video so much and has helped me make hard decisions about relationships, thank you jaiden!!

  • ArcherRaccoon
    ArcherRaccoon 3 महीने पहले

    Just watching this and having more experiences with toxic friends, ex’s, and harassments vs when this video came out a couple of years ago. It really helps having a reminder because I love my friends but I’m also really proud of myself for realizing and/or remembering to take care of my own ecosystem. I recommend everyone watch this at least 2 times a year because shit can happen. You just need that friendly reminder!